It's okay to fight just fight fair.
William and I are pretty notorious for fighting. We had our squabble's before marriage and continue to have them. But they are a whole lot different now. Less shots at each other's character and no wasting time yelling... we just try to get to the crux of the problem and move on with life. We also argue a bit less due to the whole "distance makes the heart grow fonder" thing.
There is no going to bed angry.
I say that there is no going to bed angry, but that doesn't mean we don't try. William especially loved to go to bed angry prior to our marriage and at the beginning. However not much sleeping happens when one or both of us is huffing and puffing and trying to make their anger blatantly apparent to the other. Now we know we can stay as mad as we want but there won't be any sleeping until someone (or both of us) gives in and gives an apology.
Things will go wrong... I promise.
We strongly believe in Murphy's Law. Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong... so start saving your money now!
Love grows exponentially.
We thought we were in love before we got married. But the closeness we have now is exponentially bigger than our love was then (no, Dad, this has nothing to do with algorithms). I can't explain it but it's pretty awesome.
Leave work at work.
William has no issues leaving his work at work... but I on the other hand have had to work hard at this. I have to say I think I've mastered it now. Hopefully I won't slip back into any bad habits while William is away.
Laugh a lot.
It may be a given... but you know for the sake of the list. We laugh a ton... and mostly at each other. Lucky for us we both have good senses of humor. We use them a lot.
Cleave to your husband/wife.
Separating from our families (sorry guys) is something that we took very seriously. We both grew up very differently and it was very important for us to create our own family. It took sacrifices from both of us but in the end it was well worth it. You can go straight to the Bible on this one. I definitely think that this one concept can make or break a marriage and I've seen it with people close to me.
Get some newly wed friends but keep your single ones too.
All I can say is "Thanks" to Jonna and Bryan and our friends from our newly wed Sunday School class. And thanks to all my girl friends who have kept me sane when William is gone.
Be spontaneous.
Some ideas: go to the fair, wander around the mall for a few hours, go to the zoo, have a pumpkin carving contest, get yogurt (every night for weeks), drive across town to the closest dairy queen, have a dance party in your living room.
I'm sure a lot of these are obvious... but I don't just blog for yall... I blog for me. And I needed this list.
Long story short:
I had a few responses to my last post that I guess people felt like I was throwing myself a pity party. I'm not. Really I'm not. I'm just acknowledging that I feel different now than I did when William was in Oklahoma. In a nutshell... we are VERY happy. Our relationship hasn't been better in our 11 years of knowing each other.
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